Self-Deception as a Coping Mechanism Pt.2

More ways self-deception may manifest as a coping mechanism in the context of surviving abuse:

  1. Dissociation: Individuals may dissociate or detach from their emotions and experiences as a means to cope with the overwhelming and traumatic nature of the abuse. They may create a mental or emotional distance from the reality of the abuse, temporarily blocking out the pain and distress associated with it.
  2. False sense of control: Survivors may deceive themselves into believing that they have control over the abuser’s actions or the course of the abuse. They may convince themselves that by changing their own behavior or meeting certain conditions, they can influence or stop the abuse. This false sense of control provides a temporary illusion of power and safety.
  3. Idealization of the abuser: In an attempt to cope, individuals may idealize the abuser or focus on their positive attributes. They may emphasize the abuser’s occasional kind or loving behavior, hoping that this will become the dominant pattern and the abuse will cease. By focusing on the abuser’s perceived positive qualities, they may temporarily shield themselves from the harsh reality of the abuse.
  4. Minimization of personal needs: Survivors may suppress their own needs and desires as a way to adapt to the abusive environment. They may convince themselves that their needs are unimportant or that they should prioritize the needs and demands of the abuser. This self-deception can be an attempt to maintain a semblance of peace and avoid further conflict or harm.

It’s important to recognize that self-deception as a coping mechanism can be harmful in the long run, as it can prolong the abuse, perpetuate a cycle of victimization, and hinder the process of healing and recovery.