Narc PR: Damage Control

Covert narcissists are known for their manipulative tactics, and one of those tactics involves ensuring that they get their lies in first. By doing so, they aim to control the narrative and manipulate others’ perceptions of events or situations. Here’s an explanation of how covert narcissists use this strategy:

  1. Preemptive Lies: A covert narcissist may proactively fabricate lies or distort the truth before anyone else has a chance to speak or present their version of events. By being the first to provide information, they gain an advantage in shaping the narrative according to their agenda. This strategy allows them to establish a false baseline that others might adopt, making it more challenging for the truth to be revealed.
  2. Building a False Story: Covert narcissists are often skilled storytellers. They weave a web of lies that may involve partial truths, embellishments, or fabrications to create a convincing narrative. By constructing a cohesive and detailed false story, they aim to solidify their version of events in the minds of others, making it difficult for alternative perspectives or contradictory evidence to be accepted.
  3. Manipulating Perception: Covert narcissists understand the power of perception and how it influences people’s beliefs. By telling their lies first, they control the initial impression that others form. This can lead to confirmation bias, where subsequent information is interpreted in a way that supports the narcissist’s false narrative. People tend to be more receptive to information that aligns with their initial beliefs or impressions, making it harder to challenge the narcissist’s lies later on.
  4. Establishing Credibility: When covert narcissists are the first to present their version of events, they often try to bolster their credibility by appearing confident, composed, and trustworthy. They may provide details, evidence, or personal testimonials to make their lies more convincing. By doing so, they create an impression of reliability and authority, which can make it harder for others to question or doubt their statements.
  5. Discouraging Opposition: By telling their lies first, covert narcissists can discourage others from speaking up or presenting contradictory information. They may use tactics like intimidation, deflection, or dismissive behavior to undermine or silence anyone who challenges their narrative. This can create an environment where people feel reluctant or fearful to challenge the narcissist’s lies, further solidifying their control over the situation.
  6. Exploiting Time Constraints: Covert narcissists may take advantage of time constraints or time-sensitive situations to ensure they tell their lies first. By rushing or pressuring others into making quick decisions or judgments, they limit the opportunity for careful consideration or gathering alternative perspectives. This can be especially effective when combined with other manipulation techniques, as it reduces the chances of their lies being thoroughly examined.